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There’s a moment, toward the end of a parent’s trip to drop their child off at college, when it feels like the world is changing. Many describe the joy and loss that mingle in those five minutes walking back to the car. But some parents stay quite enmeshed in their child’s emotional life long after they leave campus. My colleague Faith Hill reported earlier this summer on the new age of endless parenting, and how parents stay in much closer touch with their college-age children than they did a few decades prior.
Before they say goodbye to their kids, many parents will give parting advice. But “usually,” Ezekiel J. Emmanuel wrote this week, that advice “will be wrong.” “When it comes to their children, parents are innately conservative,” Emmanuel writes. “They want them to be successful and to lead fulfilled and happy lives. To many parents, that means counseling them to pursue what seem like paths to guaranteed success.” But that conservatism doesn’t help students get the most out of their college experience, Emmanuel argues.
Today’s newsletter explores how the parent-child relationship changes during the college years, and how to help guide students through all that college brings.
On College
The Worst Advice Parents Can Give First-Year Students
By Ezekiel J. Emanuel
Today’s college students will have ample time to figure out their careers. Before that, encourage them to take risks.
What the Freshman Class Needs to Read
By Niall Ferguson and Jacob Howland
It is no small part of a liberal education to show students the broad range of meaningful lives they might aspire to lead.
What I Learned About Life at My 30th College Reunion
By Deborah Copaken
“Every classmate who became a teacher or doctor seemed happy,” and 29 other lessons from seeing my Harvard class of 1988 all grown up
Still Curious?
Other Diversions
P.S.
I recently asked readers to share a photo of something that sparks their sense of awe in the world.
“Here’s a picture from our backyard, after a summer shower last week,” Kristine S., 49, from Portland, Oregon, writes. “I noticed this raindrop-covered web among the cedar branches. Spider webs are one of those ‘everyday wonders’ that seem never to cease to amaze me!”
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— Isabel